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Quickies and scheduling: a beginner's guide

Short, spontaneous sex fits busy lives, and scheduling it makes sure it actually happens.

In the quiz

• Quickies
• Scheduling sex

How to start

1. Five minutes before work.
2. Put date nights on the calendar.
3. Agree that quickies don’t need a big build-up.

How to keep it safe

• Lube helps when there’s no warm-up.

What you need

• Starter: lube within reach.

Ideas to try

• A quickie in the shower.
• A standing weekly date.

Is your partner into it too?

Take the quiz on your own phones. You'll only see quickies and scheduling in your results if you both said some kind of yes.

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Sources

• Muise et al. (2019). Broadening your horizons: Self-expanding activities promote desire and satisfaction in established romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
• Mallory (2022). Dimensions of couples' sexual communication, relationship satisfaction, and sexual satisfaction: A meta-analysis. Journal of Family Psychology.

Related guides

• Full-body massage

  The easiest way to slow down and get comfortable touching each other with no pressure. It works on its own or as a long warm-up.

• Slow nights and closeness

  Hours instead of minutes. Long make-outs, showers together, eye contact and very slow sex are about closeness more than technique.

Educational, not medical or legal advice. Updated 2026-11-09.